Some conditions can make it very difficult for a person to figure out who they even are. Undiagnosed autists and others can go decades trying and failing to be

Some conditions can make it very difficult for a person to figure out who they even are. Undiagnosed autists and others can go decades trying and failing to be as successful and "normal" as others and may see it as failure on their part. For a lot of those people finally having a label that explains who they are and why can be a huge step for improving their life. Can such labels/identities be used as an excuse? Sure. But often it's also a legitimate explanation, and I think it's actually helpful in at least as many cases. To be fair it can be difficult for people to judge whether an affected person uses it as excuse or honest explanation, partly because they don't know the symptoms let alone understand them.