Dating apps seemed like they got about a decade that anyone took them seriously at all. Maybe 15 years if I'm being generous. Before that, we went out and met

Dating apps seemed like they got about a decade that anyone took them seriously at all. Maybe 15 years if I'm being generous. Before that, we went out and met people in meat space. Often at bars, because as bad as that was, it still beat the dating apps of the day. I think at this point people are getting paralyzed by an overabundance of choice in many cases, and the illusion of the possibility of infinite pickiness (coupled with the ability to pick out flaws before you ever encounter redeeming qualities in a person). When you look at human history, for most of it, marriages were arranged. Then for the last few centuries, they were arrived at by "love" (aka, raging hormonal passions, and the occasional chemically altered decision making). Now, people are making this match making thing about finding the perfect person. May as well make it about finding a martian for how successful that's likely to be, by anyone who bothers to take a second to look at it. Humans are messy. Two humans are messier than one. Relationships aren't about perfectly compatible people, they're about learning to work together despite the fact that you're going to have reason to clash on a regular, if not constant basis. And if that prospect is too exhausting, then yea, people should expect to be alone more. If THAT prospect is unacceptable, perhaps consider rebalancing your life to make room for basic human intimacy. There's no such thing as mustering 150% of your available resources.