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The extra hours I do are more for my sense of perfectionism than to do with keeping up. I fill the extra time because I want to. I just now want to start getti

The extra hours I do are more for my sense of perfectionism than to do with keeping up. I fill the extra time because I want to. I just now want to start getting laid for it.

qup 2y ago
Make the second job at the local gym, that should help.
- tetris11 2y ago
  That's very helpful, thank you...
  - blissfulresup 2y ago
    Believe he was being cheeky about you now wanting to get /laid/ for it Since already commenting, I’d look into getting some resume assistance. Know you mentioned the kinda work you do is linear pay but perhaps if you reword your skills/what you’ve done in a clearer/relevant light you’d be able to transition easier. Good luck, thank you for posting
    - tetris11 2y ago
      OH! Oh god, I did not see that. I've been ricing my CV for a few months now. Highlighted STAR stories and projects to show my experience as a Software Dev / SysAdmin / Data Analyst / Matrix manager, made skill charts of all the languages and frameworks I've used complete with years of experience. It looks fancy as hell from my perspective, but maybe it's time I got a second opinion on it from some professionals. Cheers.
paulcole 2y ago
> The extra hours I do are more for my sense of perfectionism than to do with keeping up Then why the heck do you do them? Instead of thinking of yourself as a perfectionist, start thinking of yourself as an insecure person. You’re insecure about the quality of your work so you pretend that if you spend more time on them your insecurity will go away because then they’ll be done perfectly. Make a list of 10 or 20 things you’ve done perfectly recently. It shouldn’t be hard since you’re a perfectionist, right?
- tetris11 2y ago
  (hostility aside...) I never said my work was perfect, but that I do take delight in polishing work that is more than passable. I can't be the only one here who likes to optimize their work in their free time.
  - paulcole 2y ago
    But you did say you have a sense of perfectionism. And of course your work isn’t perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect work. So either you get comfortable being done with things when they are done or you get comfortable with doing extra unpaid work because you delight in spending your time making things more than passable. Which one would you prefer? It’s 100% up to you.
idontwantthis 2y ago
Stop doing the extra, unnecessary work first then see how you fill your time. You might surprise yourself with what you find out you need/enjoy.

The extra hours I do are more for my sense of perfectionism than to do with keeping up. I fill the extra time because I want to. I just now want to start getting laid for it.

qup 2y ago

Make the second job at the local gym, that should help.

tetris11 2y ago
That's very helpful, thank you...
- blissfulresup 2y ago
  Believe he was being cheeky about you now wanting to get /laid/ for it Since already commenting, I’d look into getting some resume assistance. Know you mentioned the kinda work you do is linear pay but perhaps if you reword your skills/what you’ve done in a clearer/relevant light you’d be able to transition easier. Good luck, thank you for posting
  - tetris11 2y ago
    OH! Oh god, I did not see that. I've been ricing my CV for a few months now. Highlighted STAR stories and projects to show my experience as a Software Dev / SysAdmin / Data Analyst / Matrix manager, made skill charts of all the languages and frameworks I've used complete with years of experience. It looks fancy as hell from my perspective, but maybe it's time I got a second opinion on it from some professionals. Cheers.

paulcole 2y ago

> The extra hours I do are more for my sense of perfectionism than to do with keeping up Then why the heck do you do them? Instead of thinking of yourself as a perfectionist, start thinking of yourself as an insecure person. You’re insecure about the quality of your work so you pretend that if you spend more time on them your insecurity will go away because then they’ll be done perfectly. Make a list of 10 or 20 things you’ve done perfectly recently. It shouldn’t be hard since you’re a perfectionist, right?

tetris11 2y ago
(hostility aside...) I never said my work was perfect, but that I do take delight in polishing work that is more than passable. I can't be the only one here who likes to optimize their work in their free time.
- paulcole 2y ago
  But you did say you have a sense of perfectionism. And of course your work isn’t perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect work. So either you get comfortable being done with things when they are done or you get comfortable with doing extra unpaid work because you delight in spending your time making things more than passable. Which one would you prefer? It’s 100% up to you.

idontwantthis 2y ago

Stop doing the extra, unnecessary work first then see how you fill your time. You might surprise yourself with what you find out you need/enjoy.