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> men have many of the same feelings toward other men This is absolutely true. But it overlooks her premise, which is summarized in: > And usually, what men
by quesera 2y ago
> men have many of the same feelings toward other men
This is absolutely true.
But it overlooks her premise, which is summarized in:
> And usually, what men in these situations actually want is closeness. They’re trying to get closer to me, physically or emotionally, in the only way they know how. That combination of poor emotional skillsets and a desire to get closer is exactly what puts me in danger.
As a male on the trail, you do have to watch out for the rare aggressive evildoer.
But you generally do not have to watch out for ordinary maladjusted humans (most of them) who just want closeness, and react to disinterest with escalating hostility.
You see this on the street too, in public. A woman who does not respond with brightness and cheer to a man's (perhaps gentle, but unwelcome) attention will often get yelled at or called names. On the street. In public.
Men almost never have to deal with demands placed upon them by strangers that are anything like this.
- sho_hn 2y agoAgreed; I just wrote a reply elsewhere in the discussion where this also occured to me.
- quesera 2y agoI'm in awe of her skillset. It sounds like being a hostage negotiator, with yourself as the hostage. I know I would be terrible at it. It might be the height of male privilege to be able to simply ignore annoying people.
- luckylion 2y ago> ordinary maladjusted humans (most of them) who just want closeness, and react to disinterest with escalating hostility That sounds insane. "Most humans" are maladjusted, "just want closeness" and "react to disinterest with escalating hostility"? Just no. > Men almost never have to deal with demands placed upon them by strangers that are anything like this. "What are you looking at?", followed by some combination of humiliation, violence, robbery. It's pretty common with the type of aggressively useless person that would also yell at women for not appreciating attention from some random person.
- quesera 2y agoMy sentence structure might not have been adequately clear. Most humans are maladjusted on some spectrum. I believe that, but OK it's arguable. The remaining qualifiers were intended to be increasingly smaller subgroups of the first. I make no claims about how large the ultimate group in question is, although "too large" seems clear. Re: the second part, yes but there's also the category of decent people who extend themselves a little and feel humiliated/react defensively to a non-adept rejection.