>but that’s only 70% of the cases of birth during marriage. The idea that 30% of childbirths are not by the child's supposed father is a misnomer: it's much cl

>but that’s only 70% of the cases of birth during marriage. The idea that 30% of childbirths are not by the child's supposed father is a misnomer: it's much closer to 1-2%[0]. Certainly, if you've been in a long-term relationship and have been cheated on, you'd probably be very scarred and think that you can never trust women, you can never know if the kids are actually yours, etc. And I can understand that sentiment, especially since in Western society, all the stages leading up to marriage, and all the negative experiences people have, often lead them to become very cynical. But trust me, once you hit around 30, interest in sex starts to decrease, and people are too wrapped up in work, family, and general social obligations to even think about sleeping around. It does happen that two people who are unsatisfied in their marriages, who are good friends and happen to spend a lot of time together, might end up having an affair, but rarely would that lead to another kid, especially since the woman would be extra careful about pregnancy. Now, I'll grant that if someone is mentally unstable, or its even a power thing, its entirely possible that a woman could cheat on her husband, lie about being on birth control, and get herself pregnant to another man because its like the only way she can get off. But that's probably relatively rare, and there are numerous other cases where the reason is far more mundane, perhaps a woman feels pressured to get married to a man while she has another lover, but her groom is more financially stable and can provide for her better. Or maybe she is just crazy, sleeping with a bunch of different guys without telling any of them about the others, and as soon as she gets pregnant she just tells the most gullible one that its his. But its still 1 in 30 at most. Not something you should think about, unless its too obvious to ignore. [0]https://insidestory.org.au/the-fatherhood-myth/ https://insidestory.org.au/the-fatherhood-myth/