My approach is to have strong opinions (weakly held), and ask if people have objections to the tradeoffs. That tends to keep the focus on specific reasons to ch

My approach is to have strong opinions (weakly held), and ask if people have objections to the tradeoffs. That tends to keep the focus on specific reasons to choose a given path rather than you and someone else just having different preferences. Doesn't always work, but it's a lot easier than fighting over whether option A or option B is just universally better.