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One of problems with trying to discuss a word like anger, which has lots of meanings, is that people talk past each other, as many are doing in this discussion.
by blueyes 2y ago
One of problems with trying to discuss a word like anger, which has lots of meanings, is that people talk past each other, as many are doing in this discussion.
There are different kinds of anger. I have not doubt that some are useful, some are damaging, and some are both at the same time.
I think one kind of anger that can be particularly damaging is cited in the parent comment here. It's a chronic anger that was formed in childhood and accompanies a person through life looking for new threats, targets, and sources of outrage. I've known people holding that kind of anger, I've also been that person at least sometimes, and yes it's damaging to oneself and others. Profoundly maladaptive. A way to sabotage yourself, your relationships and your livelihood. That's a chronic anger.
But there are other forms of anger that might be momentary, and come up when something is going wrong that should be stopped. Maybe anger is the wrong term, but I'm talking about a sense of "this is wrong, and I'm going to intervene now." Sure, that can misfire, but it can also be useful and prevent a lot of harm.
- sshine 2y agoI recognise the chronic anger just looking for places to manifest. And while I could justify it as a source of ventilation at work, I’d be more combative at home after work. It’s fine to have learned to get angry when witnessing injustice. Sometimes it is the best solution to be loud and noisy. And sometimes scaring a person is the only solution I know. In a gestalt session at an anger management therapist, I told myself that there is always better solutions, I just don’t always know them yet.