I don't think you meant to invalidate their experience, but that's how I feel when I've been told similar stuff like, "sorry you went through that ... it's not

I don't think you meant to invalidate their experience, but that's how I feel when I've been told similar stuff like, "sorry you went through that ... it's not actually part of the religion ... and all religions are like that anyway." Zealots are often that way because they're more orthodox/literal with their religion, and anyways, why is your interpretation of a religion more accurate than theirs?