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I agree with your mindset, but this is interesting to me: >Anger isn’t actually an “emotion.” It’s a reaction. Are there emotions which are not reactions?

ChrisMarshallNY 2y ago
Well, the basic wisdom, as I have been told, is that anger is a reaction to fear, which is an emotion, but that’s a fairly unpopular PoV. Anger is “manly,” while fear is “wussy.” No one likes to admit they’re frightened, but, in my experience, identifying the fear, and addressing that, is quite effective.
- cb321 2y ago
  "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." - Yoda, "A Long Time Ago".. ;-)
- justinclift 2y ago
  > Well, the basic wisdom, as I have been told, is that anger is a reaction to fear ... Oh, that's very different from what I learned, and have seen, which is that anger is a reaction to not having control over something (that you do actually want control of). So, when something occurs that's different to how a person wishes it to be (for whatever reason) they (can) get angry.
  - naasking 2y ago
    Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though. The main times I feel anger are when people waste my time, because I lost time that I could have used for better purposes. I could see that ultimately being due to a fear of having too little time to do what I want to do in life.
    - justinclift 2y ago
      > Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though ... Maybe sometimes, but it would be pretty rare. At least for myself, and other people I know well.
      - vernon99 2y ago
        Why else would you want control over something though? If not to make sure you get what you want. Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want? (A side note from an angry control freak thinking about this thread). At that point I tend to agree it boils down to control which boils down to feat and it’s just very hard to admit.
        justinclift 2y ago
        > Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want? That really seems like trying to shoehorn a square into a circle, and doesn't make any sense to me personally. If that's how you work though, then no worries. :)

ChrisMarshallNY 2y ago

Well, the basic wisdom, as I have been told, is that anger is a reaction to fear, which is an emotion, but that’s a fairly unpopular PoV. Anger is “manly,” while fear is “wussy.” No one likes to admit they’re frightened, but, in my experience, identifying the fear, and addressing that, is quite effective.

cb321 2y ago
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." - Yoda, "A Long Time Ago".. ;-)
justinclift 2y ago
> Well, the basic wisdom, as I have been told, is that anger is a reaction to fear ... Oh, that's very different from what I learned, and have seen, which is that anger is a reaction to not having control over something (that you do actually want control of). So, when something occurs that's different to how a person wishes it to be (for whatever reason) they (can) get angry.
- naasking 2y ago
  Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though. The main times I feel anger are when people waste my time, because I lost time that I could have used for better purposes. I could see that ultimately being due to a fear of having too little time to do what I want to do in life.
  - justinclift 2y ago
    > Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though ... Maybe sometimes, but it would be pretty rare. At least for myself, and other people I know well.
    - vernon99 2y ago
      Why else would you want control over something though? If not to make sure you get what you want. Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want? (A side note from an angry control freak thinking about this thread). At that point I tend to agree it boils down to control which boils down to feat and it’s just very hard to admit.
      - justinclift 2y ago
        > Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want? That really seems like trying to shoehorn a square into a circle, and doesn't make any sense to me personally. If that's how you work though, then no worries. :)