The things I have lived. I have seen a person turn to robot then to a person again multiple times. If they came close to someone they freaked and turned to ster

The things I have lived. I have seen a person turn to robot then to a person again multiple times. If they came close to someone they freaked and turned to stereotypical actions and wording, and then when emotionally sober they would try to pick up the pieces of the self sabotage. I studied heavily for two years, they gave me their attention. I read reddit and relationship columns and I recognize the keywords. "Independence", "We must", "Disappeared, ghosted" See these two videos: Ignore the username https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b_H0V1-kQbE https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b_H0V1-kQbE Heidi Priebe all vids but specifically this it is titled fearful avoidance but it is for everything https://youtu.be/5jk7PAa8D1o?feature=shared https://youtu.be/5jk7PAa8D1o?feature=shared user igorramazanov gave a great list. If one has trauma such as consistent nightmares avoid reading the "Body keeps the score", it is about cptsd and it is too strong and triggering leave for later. cptsd is relevant to attachment problems but not directly. let me also add another tangentially relevant but very good book about borderline personality disorder "I hate you, don't leave me' After someone has realized that not knowing why he dislikes all his partners for no reason after while is due to trauma healing can start. It takes 3-5 years of therapy and a secure partner through that journey.