3 ms·
>magical encounters in the street, bars, clubs, etc. Sounds good, doesn't work. The chance that the stranger has something in common with me, and he's in a moo
by anal_reactor 2y ago
>magical encounters in the street, bars, clubs, etc.
Sounds good, doesn't work. The chance that the stranger has something in common with me, and he's in a mood to talk to me, is extremely low.
I kept going out and trying to socialize in such places, but it turned out to be a massive waste of time without even a single tiny success, and as my life keeps getting busier, the mental cost of being around loud strangers makes less and less sense.
- XajniN 2y agoYou need to be more intoxicated.
- anal_reactor 2y agoWhen sober I can manage my social anxiety. When intoxicated, I just panic and need to leave immediately.
- bradjohnson 2y agoOne off chance encounters like that on a bar or street put a lot of pressure on the specific encounter and don't allow a more gradual "get to know you" phase. Do you have a social activity that you've neglected with the lack of available friends? Or one that you're interested in but never had the chance to get involved with? This is perhaps mundane advice, but check if there's a group that does that activity and try to become a regular. They're always very welcoming to newcomers and you'll find yourself well established in the group after a few returns.