Sorry to hear about your situation. I don’t know that pain but I know it is painful for people I know that want kids but can’t have them for various reasons. In

Sorry to hear about your situation. I don’t know that pain but I know it is painful for people I know that want kids but can’t have them for various reasons. In your case, since it is an economic decision, I do wonder if there are ways to get around it. Could one of you leave your job to take care of kids full time? For many people the net income from working (after taxes after child care etc) is not worth being away from their kids, and often it is even a strictly better financial decision to stay home when you do the math. But if you both are earning enough in your jobs where that would not be the case, I wonder if you’re actually earning enough but overestimating the costs of taking care of a kid? Remember they have ways of getting aid for college and they can also work to put themselves through college - or take cheaper routes like community college before regular college (assuming you’re in the US). I don’t know your whole situation of course, so apologies if this is naive or offensive.