> "Having parents who are burnt out, resentful martyrs does not help a kid." Completely agree. But that as you say is not putting the kids first. Putting the

> "Having parents who are burnt out, resentful martyrs does not help a kid." Completely agree. But that as you say is not putting the kids first. Putting the kids first means that you will leave them to throw tantrums when you need to, or leave them with someone else so they develop in that way. Giving kids what they want != putting them first.