That's a false dichotomy - putting your children first doesn't have to mean 'at all costs'. Strike a balance between the two. Parents' first responsibility sho

That's a false dichotomy - putting your children first doesn't have to mean 'at all costs'. Strike a balance between the two. Parents' first responsibility should be to their children, who didn't choose to be born (that was the parents' choice) and haven't yet learned the important lessons in life - such as how to care for others. It's not about controlling so much as guiding. Selfish behaviour begets selfish children.