There is writing between the lines you are missing. The very phrase "accept abuse" already puts one in the position of victim. I suspect you won't "see" this t

There is writing between the lines you are missing. The very phrase "accept abuse" already puts one in the position of victim. I suspect you won't "see" this though because I'm going to guess you'll look at it as some kind of behavioral impasse which you are either "subjected" to or free from. That's not what I'm saying This has nothing to do with OSS maintenance, it has nothing to do with projects, it has nothing to do with development even. It is a life lesson, one which entirely directs your life as a victim, or as a sort of life-long learner (because it never ends!) of how to control your own reaction... and as one gets better at this (hard) feat, the bigger situations one can be in before "tapping out" so to speak. IMO, the goal of life should be to be on that second path, and look at all situations like this email more as "challenges" to practice this life-long lesson. It's entirely freeing as it's now simply a sort of zen meditation with the self... you are no longer chained to constantly reacting to what is around you. It is a profound shift in thinking. So objectively speaking, if I were him in his shoes (and I have been there)... I would read the email, feel a "ugh" wash over me, then realize... this literally has nothing to do with me, and then I would go on living my life