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Because it implies non-belonging. The question self means that the conclusion is already made that the asked person is not "from here".
by bojan 2y ago
Because it implies non-belonging. The question self means that the conclusion is already made that the asked person is not "from here".
- jajko 2y agoThat is pretty messed up. There can be gazillion good reasons for somebody to stick out, or somebody else to just asking. People getting easily offended and taking such benign question very personally have usually some deeper underlying untackled issues in their lives.
- pjc50 2y ago> usually some deeper underlying untackled issues in their lives. Usually being fed up with asked "where are you really from?" with the implication "go back there" lots and lots of times in their lives.
- galangalalgol 2y agoIt never even occurred to me people might be offended by that. I love stories of different places and foods, and I'm fascinated by all the permutations of accents that occur. I'm simultaneously mildly angered by people being offended by such a thing, and that others trained them to be that way.
- eulgro 2y agoI get asked where I'm from all the time even though I'm very obviously from around. I get what you mean but differentiating curiosity from xenophonia is generally pretty easy, and as such I see no reason why we should avoid the question entirely. Intention and context counts, pretending that it is always an offense is absolutist and reductionist.