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30 is only a deadline if you are 'brainwashed by society's expectations'. Society's expectations: you must have A personable spouse to help you in your career
by simonblack 2y ago
30 is only a deadline if you are 'brainwashed by society's expectations'.
Society's expectations: you must have
A personable spouse to help you in your career, and be married in your 20s
The 'prestige' house located in the 'prestige' area of town.
The 'right number' of children going to the 'prestige' school (Note that 'right number' varies per country, in France the 'right number' is 3.)
And of course, you must be driving the 'prestige' car.
And most of all, you must have the over-extended mortgage and other debt to pay for all of this, and to keep you always chained to the money treadmill.
Silly dumb me, I was sucked into all of the above, till around the age of 40 I realised that I didn't need to have bought into any of that at all.
- oceanplexian 2y agoNot everything is a societal expectation. I have friends that have had kids in their 40s, and they are great fathers so it’s certainly possible, but at some point age is a hard reality. If you choose to have kids, you might want to be able to play sports with them or go on a hike, and there are limits to human endurance as we age. If you want to have grandkids, there are certain realities that you can work out with basic math. 30 is not even close to being too old, but it should be a time to consider sorting things out if you want kids or not.
- TheCoelacanth 2y agoYou can absolutely take a hike or play sports well enough to play with kids in your 60s or 70s as long as you put in a bit of effort to stay in shape. Plenty of people run marathons in their 70s.
- okr 2y agoIf its a good place, and in a nice area to live, i would say, well done. Many did not want to take that risk and have with 40...nothing. The rest, like prestige cars, i would agree.