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Mmm, that sounds rather uncharitable. While obviously Deaf people aren't a hivemind, I think people who are not Deaf (and fully-abled people in particular) shou
by filleduchaos 2y ago
Mmm, that sounds rather uncharitable. While obviously Deaf people aren't a hivemind, I think people who are not Deaf (and fully-abled people in particular) should listen when they each speak for themselves instead of coming to broad conclusions of "folly".
For me it began to click due to somewhat similar discussions I've had about my sight (I'm moderately myopic in both eyes and significantly astigmatic in one), where I've explained that:
- yes I actually like wearing glasses, and am not interested in contact lenses at all
- yes I also like my uncorrected vision: I like the softness and the smoothing over of details, and the way that lights scatter, and the fact that I can focus on things that are right in front of my nose
- no it isn't anxiety that's stopping me from getting the likes of LASIK; I actually like having both corrected and uncorrected vision
And it is astonishing how much people who are caught up in their own complexes about vision deficiencies try to convince me that I'm stupid or even lying because I don't share their aversion. It was rather off-putting, to be honest.
So yeah, that was how I began to see how people whose condition (for lack of a better term) is much more strongly linked to their identity[0] would end up with their hackles permanently raised against the idea of a cure for a life experience that they find neutral and/or positive coupled with the prevailing sentiment that they must be so grateful and excited about its existence (and if they aren't then they must be stupid or crazy). Theoretically it's good that the capability exists because it gives the choice to those who do want it, but when a person is part of a group without much societal power to begin with, I don't think it's irrational to fear that it would eventually end up as an imposition rather than a choice (especially when we get obstetric treatment).
0. For example, sign languages are distinct linguistic phenomena and not simply a cipher for spoken language. And wherever there is distinct language, a distinct culture soon follows. This is why "Deaf community" and "Deaf culture" are real things in real life not just something that someone on Twitter made up, contrary to many abled people's assumptions.
- ProfessorLayton 2y agoI'm not trying to convince you that you should get LASIK if you don't want to, that's your prerogative, however: - Anyone can wear glasses (or even contacts) for fashion, frames are sold without prescriptions. One can have glasses and perfect vision. - People with 20/20 vision also have the option to wear glasses that make their vision worse for whatever reason, or see things closer to their nose. The point of this comment wasn't to belittle your own choice to correct your vision or not, but to point out why someone might not understand your aversion to correcting it given those reasons.
- filleduchaos 2y agoI'm sorry, if I'm reading you correctly you think that I should...pay for eye surgery, go through the recovery period and then...continue to use vision correcting glasses, albeit with a different prescription (one that simulates myopia and astigmatism)? And this supposedly makes so much sense to you that you cannot understand why someone would not do that? Alright.
- ProfessorLayton 2y agoMy first sentence literally says I'm not trying to convince you, and the reasons you gave in your previous comment for not doing so are different than the ones you're giving now. So, no you didn't read that correctly.