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I have this. I don’t notice it. People must think I’m really socially stupid. I try to say things that I think are commonly-shared. Then, in every group, out of
by eastbound 2y ago
I have this. I don’t notice it. People must think I’m really socially stupid. I try to say things that I think are commonly-shared. Then, in every group, out of nowhere (it’s only months later that I remember what may have triggered it), I’m expelled (generally for another reason, because it would be too simple if people said “I don’t like you because…”).
I’m 40 and since 4 years, my solution is to recluse myself and meet as few people as I can, with people who get over my defect.
I must be able to do something about it, but it requires tremendous effort. Basically I have to try to remain silent and innocuous as much as I can, and guess people. It’s hell.
- throwaway22032 2y agoI have something similar but it's mostly just tended to mean that I socialise with others who don't take themselves too seriously. Life's too short to waste on those who don't appreciate you. :)
- skissane 2y agoI think mainstream culture used to be more tolerant of people saying unintentionally hurtful things. And that cultural change puts at an disadvantage individuals who have higher autistic traits, impulsivity, etc. Whereas, people at the opposite end of the personality trait spectrum aren’t disadvantaged by it to anywhere near the same degree