We tend to define ourselves by our differences and I think this is especially true when it comes to close contacts - our family is the large comparator so often

We tend to define ourselves by our differences and I think this is especially true when it comes to close contacts - our family is the large comparator so often times you might hear "Well, I'm more short tempered than my father" from an incredibly calm person - and that contrast that they've observed may be quite correct from their perspective but measured against others it is a relatively less significant difference.