same here. once i had children i recognized some of the behavior traits of how my dad treated me and my siblings. the difficult ones are the ones done unconscio

same here. once i had children i recognized some of the behavior traits of how my dad treated me and my siblings. the difficult ones are the ones done unconsciously. i didn't recognize some until i saw my own kids repeating them. my wife also at one point recognized behaviors she learned from her parents. this recognition helped us both to better understand each other and accept our respective quirks.