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Others have broached this, you can change your environment or you can change yourself. There is a lot of value cultivating the ability to connect to people unli
by MrLeap 2y ago
Others have broached this, you can change your environment or you can change yourself. There is a lot of value cultivating the ability to connect to people unlike yourself, so I'm biased towards the latter.
A framing that's helpful for me sometimes is realizing that every one of us is born inevitably doomed to die. Our shared mortality and the impermanence of everything seems like a much bigger deal than small differences in perspective. Everyone's making their own progress along the same path. I think the best we can do is have compassion for ourselves and others. Whether we like it or not, we're all in this together.
- absoluteunit1 2y agoHmm I never thought about it that way regarding connecting with other people but I like this
- creer 2y agoThat's fair and interesting but I have always found this mentally demanding - to do deliberately. Which means this is hard to do for someone who is already in distress. Any pointers for how (distressed) people might practically go about it?
- MrLeap 2y agoYour intuition about mentally distressed people doesn't always apply, sometimes it does. It helps to have mindfulness / be able to center yourself in the present. Finding peace in surrender to things you can't control. The purpose of what I said is all about illuminating the immateriality of most chains holding people back from peace. Relative comparisons / regrets / expectations for self and others. How many torments do people grasp on to that are safe to let go? This is a personal investigation that I can't answer for others, but I think the answer approaches 100%. If some aspect of a practice doesn't help you, don't do it! I doubt any humanity preserving practice completely eliminates lifes challenges, there's quite a number of tools for returning from a bad place to a peaceful, useful perspective. Explore to find your recipe.