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Just do what every generation who couldn't afford housing has done. Move in with your parents again, you'll even save money.

vengefulduck 3y ago
Assuming that living with your parents is a safe option which for many, especially LGBT people it isn’t.
- constantcrying 3y ago
  Nothing makes life harder on yourself than making your parents hate you. It is also extremely hard to do, no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again.
  - legacynl 3y ago
    > making your parents hate you IDK if I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like you think LGBT youth make their parents hate them by being LGBT? In my opinion it's the duty of the parents to foster a proper loving relation with their children. > no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again. I think that depends on what you disagree about.
  - chaoskanzlerin 3y ago
    There is nuance to this. Being queer and living with a homophobic family means suppressing your personality in everyday life in myriad ways, way beyond "being gay". Moving out removes this tension entirely, well without any need to abandon one's family altogether.
  - darth_avocado 3y ago
    > It is also extremely hard to do It is surprisingly easy to do. You clearly come from stable families, but parents can hate their children for a lot of things: being different (everything from sexual orientation to not being social), being not like them, being exactly like them, not getting the grades they hoped for, not babysitting your 5 siblings because you had to go to school, not bringing in money, costing them too much money by existing, not being a doctor in a family of doctors.... More often, it's not the children who don't want to see their parents, its the other way around.
  - iteria 3y ago
    My parents disagree with me about having a job and my own money. Yeah fuck'em. I don't miss them at all
a_wild_dandan 3y ago
That's a phenomenal idea! Time to find some parents.
darth_avocado 3y ago
Works if your parents live in areas where employment is abundant. Otherwise you'll waste years of your life lowering your lifetime earning potential. I have personal experience with this. In my first job, I had to move to a VVHCOL area and my salary couldn't cover my monthly expenses, even after I shared a room with a stranger. Eventually however, that opportunity opened up better paying jobs. My friends who stayed behind, unfortunately did not see such opportunities and the outcome 10 years down the road is very different. Obviously there's a lot more to long term success, but proximity to jobs is one of them.

vengefulduck 3y ago

Assuming that living with your parents is a safe option which for many, especially LGBT people it isn’t.

constantcrying 3y ago
Nothing makes life harder on yourself than making your parents hate you. It is also extremely hard to do, no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again.
- legacynl 3y ago
  > making your parents hate you IDK if I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like you think LGBT youth make their parents hate them by being LGBT? In my opinion it's the duty of the parents to foster a proper loving relation with their children. > no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again. I think that depends on what you disagree about.
- chaoskanzlerin 3y ago
  There is nuance to this. Being queer and living with a homophobic family means suppressing your personality in everyday life in myriad ways, way beyond "being gay". Moving out removes this tension entirely, well without any need to abandon one's family altogether.
- darth_avocado 3y ago
  > It is also extremely hard to do It is surprisingly easy to do. You clearly come from stable families, but parents can hate their children for a lot of things: being different (everything from sexual orientation to not being social), being not like them, being exactly like them, not getting the grades they hoped for, not babysitting your 5 siblings because you had to go to school, not bringing in money, costing them too much money by existing, not being a doctor in a family of doctors.... More often, it's not the children who don't want to see their parents, its the other way around.
- iteria 3y ago
  My parents disagree with me about having a job and my own money. Yeah fuck'em. I don't miss them at all

a_wild_dandan 3y ago

That's a phenomenal idea! Time to find some parents.

darth_avocado 3y ago

Works if your parents live in areas where employment is abundant. Otherwise you'll waste years of your life lowering your lifetime earning potential. I have personal experience with this. In my first job, I had to move to a VVHCOL area and my salary couldn't cover my monthly expenses, even after I shared a room with a stranger. Eventually however, that opportunity opened up better paying jobs. My friends who stayed behind, unfortunately did not see such opportunities and the outcome 10 years down the road is very different. Obviously there's a lot more to long term success, but proximity to jobs is one of them.