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This assumes an awful lot about a person and what they may or may not need to do. People don't have to learn to like anything, especially online commentary. T

This assumes an awful lot about a person and what they may or may not need to do. People don't have to learn to like anything, especially online commentary. This thread sounds like a bunch of men attempting to invalidate this woman's feelings.

CaptArmchair 2y ago
I agree, moreover, this is what the author wrote: > All that aside, the problem isn’t just “bad comments”, because I’m a grown woman and can take critique. The biggest problem is that a portion of those folks take screenshots and share them with unsavory folks. Not a week goes by that I don’t get some nasty email from someone I blocked on Mastodon. Some of these have been threatening, and it’s gotten to the point where before I toot, I think “will someone threaten to kill me over this?” That’s not fun. There's a difference between strongly disagreeing with a post, toot, tweet, what-have-you and outright taking things way beyond what could be seen as proper conduct with respect for the human on the other end. The solution isn't to just accept that under the guise of emotional maturity. It's investing in proper governance and arbitrage, promoting shared values and morals, and providing enough affordances in digital tools that help affirm all of that.
- alt227 2y ago
  Thats all lovely in principle, but in the real world humans with a veil of anonymity will always be rude, selfish and greedy. That will never change.
- 6510 2y ago
  If you deal with 50 people one is always a tad strange. As the numbers grow the weirdest person gets progressively weirder. Around 100 k some say they want to kill or hurt you, around a million some definitely want to, at 100 million one is definitely going to try it. You can get there faster by having a unpopular opinions.
alt227 2y ago
People are always going to be rude on the internet. It gives people a sense of anonymity which allows them to care less about the feelings of people they are communicating with. There are 3 options to dealing with this. 1. Never go on the internet. 2. Accept that people will be rude, and develop ways to ignore/deal with it rationally. 3. Complain about it, and expect something to change. Looks like the author is choosing option 3. Why are you bringing sex/gender into this? It has nothing to do with it.
- voidr 2y ago
  > Why are you bringing sex/gender into this? It has nothing to do with it. It's easier to victimise yourself than to accept the reality that irrespective of what class you belong to, there will be people who will not like you for what you do, say or how you say it and they will voice their opinions. While there are plenty of isms and ists in the world, everyone gets hate online. Valid criticisms should be taken onboard, garbage hate should be discarded. If you don't have thick skin but still want to have an online presence: just disable comments or have moderators delete all comments you wouldn't like. It might also be just me, but I fail to understand why anyone uses Twitter or anything similar, these types of platforms promote trashy conversations in my view.

CaptArmchair 2y ago

I agree, moreover, this is what the author wrote: > All that aside, the problem isn’t just “bad comments”, because I’m a grown woman and can take critique. The biggest problem is that a portion of those folks take screenshots and share them with unsavory folks. Not a week goes by that I don’t get some nasty email from someone I blocked on Mastodon. Some of these have been threatening, and it’s gotten to the point where before I toot, I think “will someone threaten to kill me over this?” That’s not fun. There's a difference between strongly disagreeing with a post, toot, tweet, what-have-you and outright taking things way beyond what could be seen as proper conduct with respect for the human on the other end. The solution isn't to just accept that under the guise of emotional maturity. It's investing in proper governance and arbitrage, promoting shared values and morals, and providing enough affordances in digital tools that help affirm all of that.

alt227 2y ago
Thats all lovely in principle, but in the real world humans with a veil of anonymity will always be rude, selfish and greedy. That will never change.
6510 2y ago
If you deal with 50 people one is always a tad strange. As the numbers grow the weirdest person gets progressively weirder. Around 100 k some say they want to kill or hurt you, around a million some definitely want to, at 100 million one is definitely going to try it. You can get there faster by having a unpopular opinions.

alt227 2y ago

People are always going to be rude on the internet. It gives people a sense of anonymity which allows them to care less about the feelings of people they are communicating with. There are 3 options to dealing with this. 1. Never go on the internet. 2. Accept that people will be rude, and develop ways to ignore/deal with it rationally. 3. Complain about it, and expect something to change. Looks like the author is choosing option 3. Why are you bringing sex/gender into this? It has nothing to do with it.

voidr 2y ago
> Why are you bringing sex/gender into this? It has nothing to do with it. It's easier to victimise yourself than to accept the reality that irrespective of what class you belong to, there will be people who will not like you for what you do, say or how you say it and they will voice their opinions. While there are plenty of isms and ists in the world, everyone gets hate online. Valid criticisms should be taken onboard, garbage hate should be discarded. If you don't have thick skin but still want to have an online presence: just disable comments or have moderators delete all comments you wouldn't like. It might also be just me, but I fail to understand why anyone uses Twitter or anything similar, these types of platforms promote trashy conversations in my view.