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Haha, definitely. People come in different varieties. Even better you've linked to some evidence confirming that ;)

defrost 2y ago
FWiW that comment of mine has gotten more bounce (up|down votes) than pretty much any other I've made here. I'm > 60 and gone out on a lot of first dates over the decades, rarely to a resturant or a movie (I mean we have them here in W.Australia but of all the many ways to get to know a person these are not the best choices).
- 48864w6ui 2y ago
  The Miss Manners approach to dating served me well: All dates have three elements: food, entertainment, and affection. A first date should have plenty of entertainment and only a hint of affection. At some point, the affection becomes the entertainment, but under no circumstances may the food be omitted.
  - HenryBemis 2y ago
    Dating/flirting on a full stomach is more likely to happen than on an empty stomach. Exhibit A :) https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/business-negotiations/in-business-negotiations-eat-before-you-negotiate/ https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/business-negotiations/in-b...
    - greenish_shores 2y ago
      Aka the "hungry judge effect": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry_judge_effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry_judge_effect. But it's not like you can only fill your stomach up at a fancy restaurant (neither that you claim that nor that I find it being something bad).
      - mattkrause 2y ago
        FWIW, the hungry judge effect is almost certainly nonsense. The original research assumed the case were randomly ordered, and so everyone should have an equal shot at parole—-but they weren’t! Instead, all the cases from one particular prison were heard together, with breaks usually occurring between prisons. Within a prison, cases were arranged by lawyer, with prisoners representing themselves going last. If people without professional representation fare worse (and they do), then…that’s the whole effect. PNAS published a “rebuttal” article where someone actually interviewed court staff who reported this, but it’s been cited like…70 times vs thousands for the original article. There are other reasons to think the original result wasn’t true too. The “effect” didn’t occur when considering wall-time (i.e., judges were similarly severe at 9:30 and 11:30), only order (first vs last), but you’d expect hunger, blood sugar, etc to track time elapsed. Sorry for the aside, but the fact that people still cite this drives me nuts.

FWiW that comment of mine has gotten more bounce (up|down votes) than pretty much any other I've made here. I'm > 60 and gone out on a lot of first dates over the decades, rarely to a resturant or a movie (I mean we have them here in W.Australia but of all the many ways to get to know a person these are not the best choices).

48864w6ui 2y ago
The Miss Manners approach to dating served me well: All dates have three elements: food, entertainment, and affection. A first date should have plenty of entertainment and only a hint of affection. At some point, the affection becomes the entertainment, but under no circumstances may the food be omitted.
- HenryBemis 2y ago
  Dating/flirting on a full stomach is more likely to happen than on an empty stomach. Exhibit A :) https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/business-negotiations/in-business-negotiations-eat-before-you-negotiate/ https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/business-negotiations/in-b...
  - greenish_shores 2y ago
    Aka the "hungry judge effect": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry_judge_effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungry_judge_effect. But it's not like you can only fill your stomach up at a fancy restaurant (neither that you claim that nor that I find it being something bad).
    - mattkrause 2y ago
      FWIW, the hungry judge effect is almost certainly nonsense. The original research assumed the case were randomly ordered, and so everyone should have an equal shot at parole—-but they weren’t! Instead, all the cases from one particular prison were heard together, with breaks usually occurring between prisons. Within a prison, cases were arranged by lawyer, with prisoners representing themselves going last. If people without professional representation fare worse (and they do), then…that’s the whole effect. PNAS published a “rebuttal” article where someone actually interviewed court staff who reported this, but it’s been cited like…70 times vs thousands for the original article. There are other reasons to think the original result wasn’t true too. The “effect” didn’t occur when considering wall-time (i.e., judges were similarly severe at 9:30 and 11:30), only order (first vs last), but you’d expect hunger, blood sugar, etc to track time elapsed. Sorry for the aside, but the fact that people still cite this drives me nuts.