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> completely derailing their career path, halting all research That's a real odd way to characterize a person's death.
by jeffbee 3y ago
> completely derailing their career path, halting all research
That's a real odd way to characterize a person's death.
- AnarchismIsCool 3y agoRead the sentence again, more slowly this time.
- ianbutler 3y agoIt’s still odd to characterize a person’s death in terms of someone else’s career progression. Probably because it’s uncommon to see a death characterized by it’s second order effects. Usually it’s the family or friends and it’s more personal. OP didn’t say anything wrong though.
- arcticfox 3y ago> It’s still odd to characterize a person’s death in terms of someone else’s career progression. OP even went another level, since it was their SO's career progression that was affected, thus affecting OP. Agreed, they're not wrong, but it was odd.
- 4death4 3y agoThey’re not wrong in the sense they’re factually correct: OP’s life would have been different had a cure been available. But if OP’s SO approached her PI on their deathbed and said “Dear PI, what about my SO?” They’d probably be met with incredulity.
- CookieCrisp 3y agoWell it is a good thing that nothing like that happened then, isn’t it?
- noncoml 3y agoPI = ?
- bglazer 3y agoPrincipal investigator. It’s what phd students call their academic advisor/boss during graduate school
- SoftTalker 3y agoProbably Principal Investigator. I'd guess the "SO" is a PhD student and now his/her program is up in the air.
- echelon 3y agoSignificant Other.
- dotnet00 3y agoI don't think they meant it in a negative way. The last line makes me think they mean it in a sort of self-reflective butterfly effect way. Similar to how anyone might reflect on how the death of a relative or friend ultimately led them to being the person they are now in some way.
- otteromkram 3y ago[flagged]
- dotnet00 3y agoMy point is that text doesn't necessarily convey how they meant it. Their experience of the advisor's passing was indirect, so it isn't all that crazy that what stands out to them is how it affected their SO and the obvious effect it'd have had on the advisor's family.
- Faaak 3y agoWhy are you being so dramatic? Life is short, let it go
- willis936 3y agoThat's because I'm me and not anyone else. It was pretty traumatic for my SO and everyone else around the PI. The PI insisted on going into work and continuing on like nothing changed even as they were mentally deteriorating. If I don't include details about the tragedy it might be because I don't want to bring that energy to my comment and not because I somehow was oblivious to their significance.
- Gibbon1 3y agoThere was nothing at all wrong with your comment.
- junon 3y agoDetailing the impact a death has on the surrounding family and person's work as a personal account is fine. Your criticism is what's weird here.