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My SO's PI died of Glioblastoma a few years ago, completely derailing their career path, halting all research, and leaving behind a grieving and struggling fami
by willis936 3y ago
My SO's PI died of Glioblastoma a few years ago, completely derailing their career path, halting all research, and leaving behind a grieving and struggling family. It's difficult to picture how my life would be different had this treatment been available.
- skeletal88 3y ago[flagged]
- jeffbee 3y ago> completely derailing their career path, halting all research That's a real odd way to characterize a person's death.
- AnarchismIsCool 3y agoRead the sentence again, more slowly this time.
- ianbutler 3y agoIt’s still odd to characterize a person’s death in terms of someone else’s career progression. Probably because it’s uncommon to see a death characterized by it’s second order effects. Usually it’s the family or friends and it’s more personal. OP didn’t say anything wrong though.
- arcticfox 3y ago> It’s still odd to characterize a person’s death in terms of someone else’s career progression. OP even went another level, since it was their SO's career progression that was affected, thus affecting OP. Agreed, they're not wrong, but it was odd.
- 4death4 3y agoThey’re not wrong in the sense they’re factually correct: OP’s life would have been different had a cure been available. But if OP’s SO approached her PI on their deathbed and said “Dear PI, what about my SO?” They’d probably be met with incredulity.
- CookieCrisp 3y agoWell it is a good thing that nothing like that happened then, isn’t it?
- noncoml 3y agoPI = ?
- bglazer 3y agoPrincipal investigator. It’s what phd students call their academic advisor/boss during graduate school
- SoftTalker 3y agoProbably Principal Investigator. I'd guess the "SO" is a PhD student and now his/her program is up in the air.
- echelon 3y agoSignificant Other.
- dotnet00 3y agoI don't think they meant it in a negative way. The last line makes me think they mean it in a sort of self-reflective butterfly effect way. Similar to how anyone might reflect on how the death of a relative or friend ultimately led them to being the person they are now in some way.
- otteromkram 3y ago[flagged]
- dotnet00 3y agoMy point is that text doesn't necessarily convey how they meant it. Their experience of the advisor's passing was indirect, so it isn't all that crazy that what stands out to them is how it affected their SO and the obvious effect it'd have had on the advisor's family.
- Faaak 3y agoWhy are you being so dramatic? Life is short, let it go
- willis936 3y agoThat's because I'm me and not anyone else. It was pretty traumatic for my SO and everyone else around the PI. The PI insisted on going into work and continuing on like nothing changed even as they were mentally deteriorating. If I don't include details about the tragedy it might be because I don't want to bring that energy to my comment and not because I somehow was oblivious to their significance.
- Gibbon1 3y agoThere was nothing at all wrong with your comment.
- junon 3y agoDetailing the impact a death has on the surrounding family and person's work as a personal account is fine. Your criticism is what's weird here.
- mkoryak 3y agoMy dad died from that also, luckily for me, I was still in middle school and it had almost no impact on my career path. It's difficult to picture how my life would be different had this treatment been available.
- 100721 3y ago[flagged]
- s1artibartfast 3y agoWhich is OK when talking about oneself and your experience.
- otteromkram 3y ago[flagged]
- fnordpiglet 3y agoOne can grieve for the loss of a persons life while grieve for the impact of that loss on your own. The person who died is literally dead and as such entirely insensate to such things. However the people who depended on them - their family, as they also noted, as well as people whose livelihood depended on them, are all also affected by their death in a profound way. The impact on their life cascades on indefinitely, perhaps even generationally. The person who died is surely missed - but when someone upon whom many people depend dies that dependency can cause grief well beyond the loss of a loved one or friend.
- s1artibartfast 3y agoDeaths CAN be a great inconvenience, and nobody implied choice but you. It sucks when people die, and impacts can vary with connection. It is more honest to the dead to honor and state your real loss. A dead human can be both a loved one and teacher to different people, depending on the connection. This person didn't lose a lover, they lost a teacher, and that matters too. You don't even need to have liked someone to have lost something when they die
- reaperman 3y ago> leaving behind a grieving and struggling family For these words, I assume they were talking about the PI's family. The rest I assume they were illustrating how these deaths affect far more people than just the families of the ones lost to cancer.
- deleted 3y ago[deleted]
- eps 3y agoWhat's "PI"?
- banish-m4 3y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principal_investigator https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principal_investigator