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> Cowardice, or its opposite courage, are utterly unrelated to anything involving marital fidelity. Absolutely untrue. A brave person who is unhappy (or has u
by smt88 3y ago
> Cowardice, or its opposite courage, are utterly unrelated to anything involving marital fidelity.
Absolutely untrue.
A brave person who is unhappy (or has unmet needs) in a marriage would talk to their spouse about it. If they couldn't fix the marriage, they'd ask for a divorce.
It's much easier and less painful to violate the agreement of monogamy that you made. The fear of the pain of honesty and/or divorce is what makes people cheat rather than work on a marriage.
- searealist 3y agoYour assumption that only men in unhappy marriages cheat is unfounded.
- smt88 3y agoI also mentioned that cheaters may just feel something is missing. It's irrelevant whether they're happy or not. Violating an agreement you made with someone behind their back for your own selfish reasons is cowardly.
- searealist 3y agoJust because you find something immoral doesn't mean it's cowardly.
- smt88 3y agoIt's also not an issue of morality. If you are too afraid of whatever consequences there are to be honest with someone and then violate your agreement with them, you made a selfish decision based on fear, which is the definition of cowardice.
- searealist 3y agoSo, anyone who avoids consequences is a coward? Or is it just when you do something immoral and avoid consequences? Is it just when you "make a deal" and secretly violate it that makes you a coward? Was Ghengis Khan a coward then? He did a lot of immoral things. He violated a lot of deals. He avoided the consequences of both. Your redefinition of coward is ridiculous.