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I don't think people cheat because they are horny, primarily. They're unhappy in their current relationship and cheating is a tool to sabotage or end the relati
by standardUser 2y ago
I don't think people cheat because they are horny, primarily. They're unhappy in their current relationship and cheating is a tool to sabotage or end the relationship. In that sense, the risk is the entire point.
- dageshi 2y agoI think they're probably unhappy with their current relationship because their libido thinks they ought to be having sex with a younger attractive woman and they're not. Is this also self sabotaging a relationship? Sure, but if they wanted out of a relationship then they could do that via divorce. Actively searching for a new sexual partner seems to me to be what it appears to be on the tin... looking for someone new to sleep with.
- standardUser 2y ago> if they wanted out of a relationship then they could do that via divorce. People often don't know if they really want to end a relationship or not and even if they did, breaking up is hard to do. They don't just get divorced one day, there's usually years of lead up. And as people start to grow apart or to resent each other, they can act out in all kinds of ways, including cheating. And if someone is too afraid to pull the trigger and actually end a relationship, getting caught cheating is a great shortcut.
- nicklecompte 2y agoTrying to come up with a grand unified theory of infidelity is just setting yourself up for heartbreak and confusion. People cheat for tons of different reasons under tons of different circumstances. A very common circumstance is called "alcohol."