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Perhaps this is a controversial opinion, but I think people’s everyday choices and actions can actually give you a lot of insight into who they are as a person.
by CooCooCaCha 2y ago
Perhaps this is a controversial opinion, but I think people’s everyday choices and actions can actually give you a lot of insight into who they are as a person.
I say controversial because a lot of people seem to think you can’t judge someone unless they do something really good or really bad. But even simple stuff like regularly complaining about restaurant service, or consistently failing to return their shopping cart gives you insight into how they think.
It’s something I’ve struggled with because I notice these things and other people either don’t notice them or dismiss them.
- zero-sharp 2y agoEverybody will do something "wrong" or "bad" at some point in their lives. Behavior is also usually on a spectrum. Some people might see something as inappropriate, but this is highly dependent on interpretation and perspective. Few things are unambiguously wrong. Yes, you can judge people by their actions. But the people who see somebody not put their shopping cart away once and form a negative opinion aren't exactly balanced. And you see this kind of crap all the time on social media.
- CooCooCaCha 2y agoIf you notice, both of my examples show a repeated pattern of behavior. You can definitely judge someone off a single action. If someone fails to put away their shopping cart once am i going to judge them? Yes. Do i think they’re a bad person? No. But I will judge someone who chooses to make their car as loud as possible. It’s not just one decision, it’s a bunch of small decisions that lead to the car being changed, and a decision is made every time they choose to drive it that way.