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I don't know. My experience is that as you get older, you're constantly evaluated against what could have been, and experiences that in youth would have been se

I don't know. My experience is that as you get older, you're constantly evaluated against what could have been, and experiences that in youth would have been seen positively become discounted or, strangely, even held against you. It often feels as if a second chance at a certain point in life requires more than a change in yourself; it requires an even bigger change than earlier, once over to make the real change, and twice over to convince others or overcome their biases. Either that or the luck of finding someone who understands second chances and is willing to give them.

lll-o-lll 2y ago
The narratives change when we’re older; but I think there are still “sorting my life out”, or “taking on a new adventure”, narratives that work. And that’s all this side of things is - a story to tell yourself and others while the real work of changing habits and working consistently toward a goal occurs. I’m not disagreeing that it’s harder than when young, or the number of options have significantly reduced. However, I do think we too often feel trapped by circumstance (when older), when much is still possible.
- galaxyLogic 2y ago
  When looking for guidance for life, a good example might be Jesus. Did he make the best decisions in his life? He didn't really care about his life, he gave it away. He only cared about the well-being of others.
lanstin 2y ago
As you get older, probably you are the one doing the evaluating and realizing you won't be a heart surgeon or discover a major math theorem (that was two from my own teenagerhood). Mostly people not you don't give it two thoughts. But whatever. Learn from your life and don't judge it. I mean sure being old is held against a lot of people but that's just some political social change you can work for a little. Other people's opinions aren't the truth and it seems hard to get a few decades in and not realize this. You can make your own chances each morning, especially to be free and to be helpful to others.

lll-o-lll 2y ago

The narratives change when we’re older; but I think there are still “sorting my life out”, or “taking on a new adventure”, narratives that work. And that’s all this side of things is - a story to tell yourself and others while the real work of changing habits and working consistently toward a goal occurs. I’m not disagreeing that it’s harder than when young, or the number of options have significantly reduced. However, I do think we too often feel trapped by circumstance (when older), when much is still possible.

galaxyLogic 2y ago
When looking for guidance for life, a good example might be Jesus. Did he make the best decisions in his life? He didn't really care about his life, he gave it away. He only cared about the well-being of others.

lanstin 2y ago

As you get older, probably you are the one doing the evaluating and realizing you won't be a heart surgeon or discover a major math theorem (that was two from my own teenagerhood). Mostly people not you don't give it two thoughts. But whatever. Learn from your life and don't judge it. I mean sure being old is held against a lot of people but that's just some political social change you can work for a little. Other people's opinions aren't the truth and it seems hard to get a few decades in and not realize this. You can make your own chances each morning, especially to be free and to be helpful to others.