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Yeah it’s important to be ready to have a child, be financially and mentally stable. Also you can argue they hate having children, but if they didn’t, they woul

Yeah it’s important to be ready to have a child, be financially and mentally stable. Also you can argue they hate having children, but if they didn’t, they would be more unhappy. Raising a child is very hard work and time consuming so ofc a lot will hate having them, but I wonder if you ask them 10,15 years from now, what would they say? Most parents I saw that had an unexpected child after many years are very happy about having them.

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Gooblebrai 2y ago
> Also you can argue they hate having children, but if they didn’t, they would be more unhappy. I have the feeling this is a type of logical fallacy but I can't pinpoint which > I saw that had an unexpected child after many years are very happy about having them. It can be genuine happiness. But also it could be what they tell themselves. Because, what would be the other option? Not like they can backtrack. So better to tell themselves that they are happy with kids rather than suffer the cognitive dissonance. This is hard to prove anyway, but is not unheard of that people lie to themselves to feel better with their past decisions.
- tanisds 2y ago
  > I have the feeling this is a type of logical fallacy but I can't pinpoint which Although not a logical fallacy, "choice-supportive bias" might do:) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choice-supportive_bias https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choice-supportive_bias