> it made me feel love for the elder women, for how special they treated their job that day. I want my friends and family to remember me by the good food they h

> it made me feel love for the elder women, for how special they treated their job that day. I want my friends and family to remember me by the good food they had at my funeral. Would definitely encourage you to ask them about what they made and how. Pick up the skills and insist that your own friends and family are treated to the best food at any future funerals you attend. That's the best way to ensue someone will do the same for you, even if the elder women have themselves died by that point.