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Nonsense. Your life will resemble the game of American football only if you choose to live it by the rules of American football. A mistake is irrecoverable on
by romwell 2y ago
Nonsense.
Your life will resemble the game of American football only if you choose to live it by the rules of American football.
A mistake is irrecoverable only if you are betting everything on that wrong decision, with no Plan B and resources to pivot.
Bad choice if major is far less likely to ruin your life if you're getting two of them at the same time, and have a wide scope of classes in your curriculum (which is what differentiates universities from trade schools).
One bad relationship isn't ruining your life if you have many relationships of many kinds.
A bad investment isn't going to ruin you if you aren't putting everything into that basket.
There is always a second chance if you're not planning to get it right on the first try.
Learn how to fall, and your falls are far less likely to be irrecoverable.
And failure is an opportunity — if you plan for it.
- slaw3 2y agoMay I ask you your age? I would be interested to see how many people younger than you agree with your sentiment. And compare to those older.
- romwell 2y agoTurning 37 next week. Saying everything above as someone who's switched advisors (and field of study) five years into their PhD program, and finished it. I strongly feel that the "myth of second chance" rhetoric is just sunk cost fallacy by another name. Especially given the conspicuous lack of concrete examples in that rant. ---- PS: You sounds skeptical of what I say. May I ask your age? Defeatism seems to be a feature of the younger generation these days.
- readthenotes1 2y agoI agree. I have seen very few unrecoverable mistakes. The three most prominent in my family seem to be: -getting addicted to a mind-altering substance -taking enough hallucinogens to trigger schizophrenia -having an attitude that mistakes are unrecoverable, that redemption is not possible The first two of those seem to be largely biased by genetics. Some people can drink alcohol, some people can't. Some people can drop acid, some people can't.
- saulpw 2y ago- having a baby too young - felony conviction - paralyzed from diving into shallow water
- OccamsMirror 2y ago> - having a baby too young This one you can definitely recover from. But it really helps to have good family support and acceptance that it will be hard for a while. If you have no family support then you're going to find it extremely hard. Not impossible, though.
- bookofjoe 2y agoThe author of the piece is referring NOT to American football but football as defined in the rest of the world, i.e., soccer.