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I'm 39 and I feel like I'm 20. Not physically, but in terms of excitement about living.

by bdjsiqoocwk 3y ago

eszed 3y ago
My grandmother said approximately the same thing to me when she was ~85. Life goal.
badpenny 3y ago
I'm 43 and I feel like I'm 60. Both physically, and in terms of excitement about living.
- bdjsiqoocwk 3y ago
  Wanna talk? What happened? I've often pondered that I've been fortunate in life in that I never had health issues, and so I never had any difficulties in following the easy path in life/society (meaning study, work, pay taxes, enjoy). But other than that I'd be curious how a person would come to a situation where he'd say something like what you just said. (Also no war...)
  - badpenny 3y ago
    A few things. I got diagnosed with osteoarthritis about a year ago, not long after I'd started weightlifting in an attempt to improve my confidence and wellbeing, and it was working. The doctor I saw before the diagnosis was a patronising asshole who made me feel like an idiot for weightlifting. The doctor who gave me the diagnosis did so via SMS with the corresponding level of empathy and interest. I live in the United Kingdom and there's a very palpable sense that quality of life has nosedived over the past few years. My comment was quite flippant. My life isn't that bad, especially compared to a lot of people, and I don't go around feeling sorry for myself, but I'm definitely not hopeful or excited about the future, and I've developed a degree of contempt for, and distrust of, people that is probably unfair, unattractive, and isn't very pleasant to feel.
    - kennyadam 3y ago
      I'm also in the UK and there's a very real decline as the level of inequality grows. I used to be able to book appointments using the NHS app to see my GP before the lockdowns. Now the app just says appointments aren't available to be booked that way and everyone just has to call at 8am and hope they're lucky enough to get through. People who don't need to be at work can go and queue up physically too at 8am, but that doesn't help people who aren't mobile enough. Food prices are going up and up and I can often see prices change between each visit. Energy price cap is coming down, but standing charges are going up, so I'm paying less per KW/h but actually paying more each month because I use as little electricity as possible. Potholes are everywhere and when they do get repaired it lasts weeks, not even months. Local library opening hours are shrinking. I could go on and on about the decline I can witness around me.
      - kerrsclyde 3y ago
        We need change. Big business seems to call the shots, look at what is going on with UK Water Companies. I'm not sure are current political structure will deliver that change though.
        kennyadam 3y ago
        It's just crazy to me that water (water!) was privatised. How do you look at something so basic and essential and think that what it needs is a layer of people added who are trying to extract as much profit from it as possible? I mean, the answer is obvious, but it's so depressing that it just happened without the streets being filled with people protesting. https://www.ft.com/content/91a2779a-4077-11e7-9d56-25f963e998b2 https://www.ft.com/content/91a2779a-4077-11e7-9d56-25f963e99... "Consumers in England are paying £2.3bn more a year for their water and sewerage bills under the current privatised system than if the utility companies had remained in state ownership, according to research by the University of Greenwich." It just seems so obvious to me that for basic necessities, you don't want them owned by people trying to get away with doing the bare minimum, charging the most they can get away with and weaselling their way out of repairing, maintaining and improving the system.
- helpfulmandrill 3y ago
  You too, huh?
- jonpurdy 3y ago
  2019: 35 and feel like I'm 25 2021: daughter born 2023: 39 and feel like I'm 50 A lot of this is perception but I definitely don't exercise like I used to, partially made up by lifting her and chasing her around (and I wouldn't trade this for anything).
fransje26 3y ago
So am I, but I sometimes attribute the feeling to delusion, and non-acceptance of the fact of aging. But then I counter my own disillusion and fatalism with a good: "Being young is in the head!", and I go about my business, blissfully ignorant of the passing of time (for now)..
resource_waste 3y ago
Nothing bad happen to you in your life? Just curious. I had a similar take on life until I had a dose of Reality hit. Now, I have mere Nietzche Will To Power-style guidance pushing me forward. Life was prettier as a Idealist Stoic.
- bdjsiqoocwk 3y ago
  Nothing really bad, no... What happened to you?
  - resource_waste 3y ago
    Its too sad to share, IMO. Maybe I'm defending bad people. Its easier to say I lost religion/God to explain the significance. To this day I'm hesitant to recommend people read Philosophy/Science, reality is not as pretty as they taught us as children.

I'm 39 and I feel like I'm 20. Not physically, but in terms of excitement about living.

eszed 3y ago

My grandmother said approximately the same thing to me when she was ~85. Life goal.

badpenny 3y ago

I'm 43 and I feel like I'm 60. Both physically, and in terms of excitement about living.

bdjsiqoocwk 3y ago
Wanna talk? What happened? I've often pondered that I've been fortunate in life in that I never had health issues, and so I never had any difficulties in following the easy path in life/society (meaning study, work, pay taxes, enjoy). But other than that I'd be curious how a person would come to a situation where he'd say something like what you just said. (Also no war...)
- badpenny 3y ago
  A few things. I got diagnosed with osteoarthritis about a year ago, not long after I'd started weightlifting in an attempt to improve my confidence and wellbeing, and it was working. The doctor I saw before the diagnosis was a patronising asshole who made me feel like an idiot for weightlifting. The doctor who gave me the diagnosis did so via SMS with the corresponding level of empathy and interest. I live in the United Kingdom and there's a very palpable sense that quality of life has nosedived over the past few years. My comment was quite flippant. My life isn't that bad, especially compared to a lot of people, and I don't go around feeling sorry for myself, but I'm definitely not hopeful or excited about the future, and I've developed a degree of contempt for, and distrust of, people that is probably unfair, unattractive, and isn't very pleasant to feel.
  - kennyadam 3y ago
    I'm also in the UK and there's a very real decline as the level of inequality grows. I used to be able to book appointments using the NHS app to see my GP before the lockdowns. Now the app just says appointments aren't available to be booked that way and everyone just has to call at 8am and hope they're lucky enough to get through. People who don't need to be at work can go and queue up physically too at 8am, but that doesn't help people who aren't mobile enough. Food prices are going up and up and I can often see prices change between each visit. Energy price cap is coming down, but standing charges are going up, so I'm paying less per KW/h but actually paying more each month because I use as little electricity as possible. Potholes are everywhere and when they do get repaired it lasts weeks, not even months. Local library opening hours are shrinking. I could go on and on about the decline I can witness around me.
    - kerrsclyde 3y ago
      We need change. Big business seems to call the shots, look at what is going on with UK Water Companies. I'm not sure are current political structure will deliver that change though.
      - kennyadam 3y ago
        It's just crazy to me that water (water!) was privatised. How do you look at something so basic and essential and think that what it needs is a layer of people added who are trying to extract as much profit from it as possible? I mean, the answer is obvious, but it's so depressing that it just happened without the streets being filled with people protesting. https://www.ft.com/content/91a2779a-4077-11e7-9d56-25f963e998b2 https://www.ft.com/content/91a2779a-4077-11e7-9d56-25f963e99... "Consumers in England are paying £2.3bn more a year for their water and sewerage bills under the current privatised system than if the utility companies had remained in state ownership, according to research by the University of Greenwich." It just seems so obvious to me that for basic necessities, you don't want them owned by people trying to get away with doing the bare minimum, charging the most they can get away with and weaselling their way out of repairing, maintaining and improving the system.
helpfulmandrill 3y ago
You too, huh?
jonpurdy 3y ago
2019: 35 and feel like I'm 25 2021: daughter born 2023: 39 and feel like I'm 50 A lot of this is perception but I definitely don't exercise like I used to, partially made up by lifting her and chasing her around (and I wouldn't trade this for anything).

fransje26 3y ago

So am I, but I sometimes attribute the feeling to delusion, and non-acceptance of the fact of aging. But then I counter my own disillusion and fatalism with a good: "Being young is in the head!", and I go about my business, blissfully ignorant of the passing of time (for now)..

resource_waste 3y ago

Nothing bad happen to you in your life? Just curious. I had a similar take on life until I had a dose of Reality hit. Now, I have mere Nietzche Will To Power-style guidance pushing me forward. Life was prettier as a Idealist Stoic.

bdjsiqoocwk 3y ago
Nothing really bad, no... What happened to you?
- resource_waste 3y ago
  Its too sad to share, IMO. Maybe I'm defending bad people. Its easier to say I lost religion/God to explain the significance. To this day I'm hesitant to recommend people read Philosophy/Science, reality is not as pretty as they taught us as children.