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traditionally, nowadays it seems more like a nice opportunity to get gifts. but a barmitvah used to be when a boy was considered old enough to marry and settle

traditionally, nowadays it seems more like a nice opportunity to get gifts. but a barmitvah used to be when a boy was considered old enough to marry and settle down. last i check, jewish boys have it at 13. Hell, Gandi was 13/14 when he got married.

lotsofpulp 3y ago
Marriage does not imply self sufficiency. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi > Recalling the day of their marriage, he once said, "As we didn't know much about marriage, for us it meant only wearing new clothes, eating sweets and playing with relatives." As was the prevailing tradition, the adolescent bride was to spend much time at her parents' house, and away from her husband.[31]
graemep 3y ago
> nowadays it seems more like a nice opportunity to get gifts. People forget that it has extensive legal ramifications that protect people when things go wrong. The decline of marriage in the UK has lead to a lot of problems with things like inheritance, responsibility of children, the financial interests of the less affluent partner etc.
otteromkram 3y ago
* Gandhi (Sorry! The silent 'h' is easy to miss.)
- OJFord 3y ago
  It's not really 'silent', just pronounced differently to English (and a modifier to the 'd' rather than its own letter). gāñdhī is the transliteration of गांधी (correct name) vs. gāñdī looks like गांदी, and द is not pronounced like ध (which is is kind of a softer, more aspirated 'd'). (The ā, ñ, ī and similar 'accents' more often dropped in transliteration than the aspirative 'h' - I added them above just for accuracy, to talk purely of the d/dh, using the IAST standard for transliteration. But 'nobody' uses this for texting Hindi on qwerty. (And as someone learning the language the resulting ambiguity and variation is frustrating!))

lotsofpulp 3y ago

Marriage does not imply self sufficiency. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi > Recalling the day of their marriage, he once said, "As we didn't know much about marriage, for us it meant only wearing new clothes, eating sweets and playing with relatives." As was the prevailing tradition, the adolescent bride was to spend much time at her parents' house, and away from her husband.[31]

graemep 3y ago

> nowadays it seems more like a nice opportunity to get gifts. People forget that it has extensive legal ramifications that protect people when things go wrong. The decline of marriage in the UK has lead to a lot of problems with things like inheritance, responsibility of children, the financial interests of the less affluent partner etc.

otteromkram 3y ago

* Gandhi (Sorry! The silent 'h' is easy to miss.)

OJFord 3y ago
It's not really 'silent', just pronounced differently to English (and a modifier to the 'd' rather than its own letter). gāñdhī is the transliteration of गांधी (correct name) vs. gāñdī looks like गांदी, and द is not pronounced like ध (which is is kind of a softer, more aspirated 'd'). (The ā, ñ, ī and similar 'accents' more often dropped in transliteration than the aspirative 'h' - I added them above just for accuracy, to talk purely of the d/dh, using the IAST standard for transliteration. But 'nobody' uses this for texting Hindi on qwerty. (And as someone learning the language the resulting ambiguity and variation is frustrating!))