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Honestly this is stupid, if you want to have integrity the answer is to have less balls in the air.
by hobs 3y ago
Honestly this is stupid, if you want to have integrity the answer is to have less balls in the air.
- ZephyrBlu 3y agoYeah this feel way overblown. Just do less. You probably don't need to try and juggle so many things.
- neolefty 3y agoThat would make sense if you knew how hard things were going to be and if you could predict external responsibilities. For example if I plan to meet a friend tomorrow, but tonight my child unexpectedly gets sick, I can call the friend and say, "Sorry my child got sick. How about next week?" That might happen multiple weeks in a row, but eventually (assuming a patient friend) we'll get together and renew our connection. On the other hand, if I played it safe, and said, "I'm too busy for friendships now that I'm a parent," we would both have less friend-time.
- namaria 3y agoThe metaphor is terrible, juggling balls of very different weights would already be nearly impossible. Trying to keep track of them so you know which ones you can drop is a much harder problem then just sticking to a number you can reliably juggle.
- markstos 3y agoJuggler here. Juggling balls of very different weights works. Our brain and bodies are amazing. I watch a guy juggle a bowling ball, a machete and an apple. For a while I had my own Goodwill bowling ball for juggling.
- namaria 2y agoAmateur juggle here It's very hard, and doesn't cut as a metaphor for making your life easier
- j45 3y agoAnother analogy might be that there can only be so much on the stove at a given time.
- bluGill 3y agoThat is a bad idea. Some of those balls in the air are things you should be doing but can skip. Exercise is a perfect example - we all know that it is important for good health, but it is also something that if you skip a day here and there it is okay (just don't let one day skipped lead to a week). Similarly I practice my musical instruments, but I often skip that when something else comes up, but I have no interest in not having practice as a ball in the air even though I drop it more often than not. Life only rarely goes perfectly to plan. You will have to change plans at the last minute because of emergencies, but planning to do nothing just in case there is an emergency is a bad plan. Your boss will ask you to work late. Your kids will get sick. You will get invited to a last minute event. It is likely that you will be involved in two different activities that schedule an event at the same time. All of these are a sign of a fulfilling life, not of a problem.
- financltravsty 3y agoFulfilling for some. A system without slack is a brittle system. I really have nothing more to say but I manage to find slack, and when life throws me a new ball to juggle I can deal with it, and use the spare time, energy, and focus to deal with them properly -- rather than become winded, stressed, and pressed. I have always tried to find fulfillment with less, rather than more. The people I see zipping around from thing to thing have superficial and shallow experiences. Then they end up being superficial and shallow people. Chicken or egg? However, nothing is more irritating than having to personally deal with the "zippies," high on whatever stimulant (caffeine, nicotine, amphetamine, etc.) so they can have the "energy" to "deal" with life's "responsibilities." There's something to be said about work ethic, being able to push yourself to your limits, and balance on the razor's edge -- there is something special in that. However, lacking any sort of overarching focus is a much more common and base state of being. "More must always be done!" Yet they haven't taken any time to step back and reflect if what they're doing is even worth anything -- even the ancient generals figured that out.
- bluGill 3y agoWhat about how I described music practice isn't slack?