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> Been out of the dating scene quite a while, but for those who are not, has the 'old school' way of meeting people and asking a phone number etc. become harder
by tivert 3y ago
> Been out of the dating scene quite a while, but for those who are not, has the 'old school' way of meeting people and asking a phone number etc. become harder now? Do people only want to use dating apps for that purpose now?
I was always too shy to ask a stranger for her number, but do remember a push to make that inappropriate in the 2010s (though that might have been more of an angry online feminist thing, the gist was asking someone for their number was a non-consensual imposition, thus harassment, while online dating was consensual).
- ethbr1 3y agoThat is fucking insane, pardon my French. People (male and female) need to take ownership of the difference between being uncomfortable and assaulted, because they're very different things. If I ask someone for their number, and they're not comfortable giving it, they say "No thanks." I hear that and I say "No problem! It was nice meeting you" and then forget about it (or leave, as appropriate to the situation). There's discomfort in life, because we're not all psychic. Attempting to normalized discomfort out of life is just going to end up in some weird fun house mirror world, where we're still doing the same things, just through proxies or at arm's length.