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The real takeaway from this is about controlling sensory inputs. My wife is "neuro-spicy" and we have to consider those things when we go adventuring. What we'v

The real takeaway from this is about controlling sensory inputs. My wife is "neuro-spicy" and we have to consider those things when we go adventuring. What we've found best is to make sure there's always enough "controlled" things each day. Going to a museum, walking around a city, or going for a hike are great, but unpredictable. One or two each day are fine, but too many can cause burnout. Earplugs, books, snacks & water can help a lot with this stuff. Planning ahead is very important. As an example, she absolutely hates airports but doesn't mind flying. The noises, announcements, people moving around, never knowing if your gate will change, all of it is awful to her. I don't mind the airport but once the plane is in the air watching the time tick down is torture to me. Everybody's a little different. The "spoon theory" [1] can help things make sense, and it's a great start, but it's a bit more nuanced than that. It's more about controlling exposure to "unexpected" stimulus. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

pavel_lishin 2y ago
> One or two each day are fine, but too many can cause burnout. Maybe I'm also neurospicy, but I fully don't understand people who go on vacation to get up at 7am, and pack their day full of activities. When I travel, with my wife or solo, we each pick one thing per day, and the rest we leave open to serendipity - or honestly, just sitting in the hotel room and reading a book. Otherwise, it gets wildly overwhelming.
- aprilthird2021 2y ago
  I'm one of the people you don't understand. My wife is one of the ones who wants to relax, do one thing, even read a book in the room or at a nice location. When we were first married, I didn't even realize there was a way to travel where you didn't have an itinerary jam-packed from 7am-7pm. We found a nice middle ground, and I think I understand both perspectives now. On the one hand (my hand), travel and vacations are expensive and getting more and more out of reach. There's definitely a need to plan in advance to make the most of your time, especially if this may be your one chance to travel to X or Y destination. On the other hand, travel and vacations are often a much-needed respite from an increasingly mentally taxing work life. If you also mentally tax yourself planning out your vacation and continue to worry about making it to every stop on your itinerary, you will only see your stress levels rise, and the relaxation aspect of vacation and travel can be totally missed.
  - buttercraft 2y ago
    For me, the key aspect is obligation. It's great to plan out some options, but if they become obligations it doesn't feel like a vacation.
    - eleveriven 2y ago
      Rather like some different kind of work, agree
- eleveriven 2y ago
  When I travel or go on vacation for like three days I try not to do anything

pavel_lishin 2y ago

> One or two each day are fine, but too many can cause burnout. Maybe I'm also neurospicy, but I fully don't understand people who go on vacation to get up at 7am, and pack their day full of activities. When I travel, with my wife or solo, we each pick one thing per day, and the rest we leave open to serendipity - or honestly, just sitting in the hotel room and reading a book. Otherwise, it gets wildly overwhelming.

aprilthird2021 2y ago
I'm one of the people you don't understand. My wife is one of the ones who wants to relax, do one thing, even read a book in the room or at a nice location. When we were first married, I didn't even realize there was a way to travel where you didn't have an itinerary jam-packed from 7am-7pm. We found a nice middle ground, and I think I understand both perspectives now. On the one hand (my hand), travel and vacations are expensive and getting more and more out of reach. There's definitely a need to plan in advance to make the most of your time, especially if this may be your one chance to travel to X or Y destination. On the other hand, travel and vacations are often a much-needed respite from an increasingly mentally taxing work life. If you also mentally tax yourself planning out your vacation and continue to worry about making it to every stop on your itinerary, you will only see your stress levels rise, and the relaxation aspect of vacation and travel can be totally missed.
- buttercraft 2y ago
  For me, the key aspect is obligation. It's great to plan out some options, but if they become obligations it doesn't feel like a vacation.
  - eleveriven 2y ago
    Rather like some different kind of work, agree
eleveriven 2y ago
When I travel or go on vacation for like three days I try not to do anything