I'm sorry for what your wife and you have gone through and I cannot imagine the frustration caused when being at the mercy of a seemingly uncaring bureaucracy a

I'm sorry for what your wife and you have gone through and I cannot imagine the frustration caused when being at the mercy of a seemingly uncaring bureaucracy and having little power to do anything. I do think that more often than not, the doctors appear uncaring because they're under a very similar feeling that you experienced - but all the time. If they don't build emotional barriers, they wouldn't be able to cope. I feel this is doubly true for areas like oncology where death is a much more regular occurrence and can happen even when everyone has done everything right. I cannot fathom the feeling of having to see people wither away, to see family after family lose their loved ones. Any doctor who doesn't learn to completely distance themselves from it all is probably not going to last.