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> offering support in a manner that only a fellow man can I guess I get the idea, but in what ways can only a fellow man provide support?

• screye 3y ago
  I knew this line would get scrutinized. My bad, I didn't phrase it well. It's the difference between letting grief out and letting grief in. I owe many women close to me, who've helped me process complex emotions. But they've primarily focused on helping let emotions out. I suspect women don't struggle with letting grief in as often. It is more common for this to be a male experience. Helping a man feel safe enough to slowly let grief in, is a delicate exercise in patience and silence. I hadn't seen it represented this well in visual form before. It was also instrumental in helping me detect when I myself was refusing to let emotions in. Now I can tell if I'm running away from a sense of loss/negative emotion. It helps me extend that same patience towards myself.
  • willsmith72 3y ago
    makes sense, i figured something like that but thanks for clarifying
  • throwaway741991 3y ago
    This idea of 'letting grief in' is a really interesting way to put it and captures something I've struggled with, and would love to learn about. Do you have any resources you could send me? (I've used a throwaway account and have a temporary email in my bio.) Thank you.