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Pig (2021) Male grief is never portrayed with the kind of nuance and empathy that it deserves. Now, I've started reaching out to my friends more often and off
by screye 3y ago
Pig (2021)
Male grief is never portrayed with the kind of nuance and empathy that it deserves.
Now, I've started reaching out to my friends more often and offering support in a manner that only a fellow man can.
Lastly, it loosened me up. I didn't have to bottle things up and be a pillar for other people. I can now be weak when I was in my weakest moments, and not percieve it as a weakness. (Holy alliteration)
- willsmith72 3y ago> offering support in a manner that only a fellow man can I guess I get the idea, but in what ways can only a fellow man provide support?
- screye 3y agoI knew this line would get scrutinized. My bad, I didn't phrase it well. It's the difference between letting grief out and letting grief in. I owe many women close to me, who've helped me process complex emotions. But they've primarily focused on helping let emotions out. I suspect women don't struggle with letting grief in as often. It is more common for this to be a male experience. Helping a man feel safe enough to slowly let grief in, is a delicate exercise in patience and silence. I hadn't seen it represented this well in visual form before. It was also instrumental in helping me detect when I myself was refusing to let emotions in. Now I can tell if I'm running away from a sense of loss/negative emotion. It helps me extend that same patience towards myself.
- willsmith72 3y agomakes sense, i figured something like that but thanks for clarifying
- throwaway741991 3y agoThis idea of 'letting grief in' is a really interesting way to put it and captures something I've struggled with, and would love to learn about. Do you have any resources you could send me? (I've used a throwaway account and have a temporary email in my bio.) Thank you.