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This sounds like a classic case of premature optimisation. Cross that bridge when you get there. Thousands of other deaf parents have done so. Their kids were f
by sarenji 14y ago
This sounds like a classic case of premature optimisation. Cross that bridge when you get there. Thousands of other deaf parents have done so. Their kids were fine.
Actually, you're right. Sometimes the girl I like is deaf, sometimes not. I should be fine with kids either way, and put in the work to make sure they develop right. I'm rethinking this entire paragraph. Perhaps I should have said I don't specifically search for a girl who is deaf, and then just left it at that, or just removed it entirely. Love is love.
Let me respectfully suggest that this is just untrue, a persistent myth about language learning. Hearing kids learn spoken language just fine, even if their parents don't use it.
Some (old) studies had suggested otherwise, but you made me remember the bilingualism argument, which is gaining traction. I do know that if you have a hearing child to both deaf parents, it's very important to expose the child to spoken language as much as possible. Of course, I hope I'm that kind of parent :-)
Bilingual kids do have a lot of advantages over kids who only know one language. I'd be very happy to teach my child, hearing or deaf, both sign and English.
Thanks for the insightful comment.
- hef19898 14y agoFirst, non of what I'll be writting is an offense of any kind, I'm just putting it first because a) my other language isn't english 2) it's a sesitive subject and 3) it's awritten communication - annonymous. You are right, love is love. And one thing I learned, never argue with it! Never! So secondly, I don't think there is anything wrong with premature optimisation, everybody wants their kids to be allright and, yes, normal. If they are not, you still love them and you can't predict it anyhow but I completely understand if you want to reduce risks. since I was faced with a similar decision myself (thank god my genes turned out ok), my girl-friend and I decided to go for it. Exactly because we wanted our kids to be allright. And as for the rest of your post: you opened my eyes on a subject I never really thought about, thank you very much for that!
- idleloops 14y agoYeah I think you could remove that section entirely.
- ataggart 14y agoAs a hearing child of two deaf parents, I'm one data point against the notion that such a child's language skills are harmed. Sesame Street is a wonderful thing.
- pooriaazimi 14y agoThere are thousands and thousands of orphan children out there, why not adopt one? I'm not deaf, and thankfully have no physical illnesses (except that I sit too much in front of a computer), so there's no statistical reason to fear that my genes could go wrong, but I'm sure I'll never have kids. I don't want to judge other people, but to me, the idea of having a child while there are millions of orphan children (a huge percentage of them are healthy and very smart) who would love nothing more than a home is very unethical. I know that this might be a controversial view and most people don't feel this way, but I just wanted you to know that there are other alternatives.
- wvenable 14y agoThere have been a few IAMA's on reddit from children of deaf parents. I googled for one but found several. You might find them interesting: http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/fto7h/iama_hearing_child_of_2_totally_deaf_parents_or_a/ http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/fto7h/iama_hearing_chi... http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/p529d/iama_16_hearing_kid_of_deaf_parents_ama/ http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/p529d/iama_16_hearing_... http://fr.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/sdtr1/iam_13_year_old_girl_with_deaf_parents_ama/ http://fr.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/sdtr1/iam_13_year_old_g...