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The world is full of people who disagree with you, but you need to learn more than ever to recognize and filter out what you don't care about. I don't even view
by mindcrime 3y ago
The world is full of people who disagree with you, but you need to learn more than ever to recognize and filter out what you don't care about. I don't even view replies to posts any longer, 98% of the time because I am not seeking validation sharing my opinion.
This is something it's taken me a while to come to terms with. I used to want to fully engage with everybody and everything. It was anathema to me to just "broadcast something into the void" and ignore replies. But over time I came to realize that a. I don't scale to engaging with every single person who replies to something I say online, and b. I don't owe those people a response or any of my time/attention; especially the trolls and bots and other lamers that are so prevalent these days.
So now I'm more comfortable (albeit maybe not 100% comfortable) with treating things in more of a "fire and forget" fashion. I say what I want to say, and people can do with it what they will. I just can't be arsed to engage with the trolls and other randos. But... if somebody has a mature, reasonable, professional response then I am willing, on a selective basis, to dig in deeper and have a longer discussion.
- Lacerda69 3y agoI no longer say things online except some rare occasions. Mass social media online discourse will slowly vanish in the next 15 yrs
- Teever 3y agoThat's an interesting thought. What do you think will replace it?
- Lacerda69 3y agoNot sure but I think it will be more focused on offline life instead. AI and enshittification will make the internet and the core error in its monetization based on ads so bad that it will be replaced by a much smaller and more private version.
- abustamam 3y agoIs this one of those rare occasions? :) I don't think HN is immune from the "redditization" of the internet, though it's certainly a better community than most.
- bondarchuk 3y agoI always feel kinda bad about starting/continuing a 1 on 1 conversation on here because of the "don't cross-examine" thing in the guidelines.
- randomdata 3y ago> "redditization" of the internet 'Redditation' of the world. If it were only taking place on the internet it wouldn't be all that concerning.
- ianmcgowan 3y agoHard agree with this - sometimes find myself typing out a well-intentioned response, but then cancelling because of the potential downside years in the future for some anodyne opinion held today. Not to mention Roko's Basilisk (all hail the benevolent AI! :)
- dartos 3y agoIdk seems like you post comments on HN almost daily.
- randomdata 3y agoBut do they say anything?
- nuancebydefault 3y agoI'm curious. You say what to say. What's the incentive to do this? Educate people or...?
- sifttio 3y agoHe doesn't reply anymore.
- nuancebydefault 3y agoMindcrime did in fact
- mindcrime 3y agoI don't really put that much thought into it, TBH. I mean, yes, there are times when "educate people" is explicitly the answer, but not always. Sometimes it's just a reflection of some vague sense of desire to share and communicate with no particular purpose. That seems to be a sort of part of human nature for most of us, to some degree.
- nuancebydefault 3y agoProbably you won't read this anymore but maybe some other people, or maybe nobody. But anyways I appreciate the answer(ing) you did!
- mindcrime 3y agoJust to be clear, I don't mean to say that I don't reply to anybody, ever. Far from it. I enjoy a good conversation - *so long as it's some combination of productive, interesting, polite, professional, etc.*. I was trying to say that I'm more willing now to not reply when it's a response that is clearly just trying to start an argument for the sake of starting an argument, or somebody who is rude / disrespectful / etc. I reply to people all the time, especially on HN where the S/N ratio tends to be a bit higher.
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