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I have found that some of the things people did that made me angry were very wrong and I should not have forgiven them, I should have moved on with my life in d

by boppo1 3y ago

I have found that some of the things people did that made me angry were very wrong and I should not have forgiven them, I should have moved on with my life in directions that minimized my exposure to them (as opposed to bending over backward to maintain a friendship.) How does one apply the letter method without becoming a doormat?

jwrallie 3y ago
Managing your anger does not mean forgiving or not taking action, it just means you have freedom to do it so on a rational basis rather than emotional. So you write your angry letter, burn it, then do what needs to be done, free from angry. It could be from a place of empathy: I wish you to be happy, but I wish you to be happy very far away from me. Or from a more selfish perspective, you simply want to know you did the best you could so that you don’t need to have any guilt on it.