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I think there are ways to address trauma that don’t involve divorcing yourself from reality or forgiving someone who doesn’t deserve it.
by CooCooCaCha 3y ago
I think there are ways to address trauma that don’t involve divorcing yourself from reality or forgiving someone who doesn’t deserve it.
- Y_Y 3y agoAnd you've been keeping these ways to address trauma from the rest of the world? If people could feel better without forgiving their trespassers don't you think they'd be doing that instead?
- CooCooCaCha 3y agoAre you a therapist, or are you acting like an armchair expert? Because my strategies come from an actual fucking therapist. The first thing to note is that time itself has healing properties. Putting physical and temporal distance from your trauma is beneficial. For example, cutting people out of your life. Beyond that treatment becomes more tailored to the individual. For example, I developed medically diagnosed "severe anxiety" from my childhood. So part of my healing process is learning to calm my nervous system because my default mode is hyper-vigilance. Every 15 minutes I get a notification on my phone reminding me to do two things: 1. Take a deep breath. This engages the parasympathetic nervous system and teaches me to self-soothe. 2. I ask myself "Who is hurting your right now?" and 95% of the time the answer is "nobody, everything is fine". This helps keep me grounded in the present moment. Note that NONE of this involves divorcing myself from reality. In-fact, it's the opposite.