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I would say that "brainwashing yourself to deal with it" actually is a useful therapeutic technique. Often the person who committed the offense can't be made to
by diputsmonro 2y ago
I would say that "brainwashing yourself to deal with it" actually is a useful therapeutic technique. Often the person who committed the offense can't be made to understand or care about the damage they've caused, and the next best thing then is to help the injured person move on as best they can.
And while "brainwashing" sounds like an intellectually dishonest technique, we need to remember that the brain is not a perfectly logical instrument. The trauma that people seek help for carries an emotional toll usually in excess of the simple logical "disagreement". Therapy for such trauma is usually an emotional process, not a logical one.
I would agree though that "forgiveness" is maybe not the best term for this.
- steanne 2y agoclosure?
- Zolomon 2y agoI think part of the solution might be acceptance, that you can accept the situation and “forgive” the offender - which will relieve yourself of your feelings towards them, allowing yourself to let go and move on. Does that make sense?
- bluefirebrand 2y ago> I would say that "brainwashing yourself to deal with it" actually is a useful therapeutic technique This is basically the foundation of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or as I called it recently in another thread, "self gaslighting"
- thejazzman 2y agoAnd for anyone who doubts it, just think about how effective marketing is on altering human behavior/perception. Imagine if all that effort was directed towards a different intent.