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It's a very difficult choice to make and I have full sympathies for the lady. I also respect herc choice, considering that it was made by her own free will and

It's a very difficult choice to make and I have full sympathies for the lady. I also respect herc choice, considering that it was made by her own free will and complies with the law of the land. However, I still feel a bit conflicted about this situation. As per the report, she is physically fit, has a loving boyfriend, a pet cat, and doesn't seem to be in any monetary duress. Plus, she happens to be living in one of the happiest and prosperous countries in the world. When I compare her with a vast multitude of people in developing countries who continue to toil against all odds (physical, mental, societal, economic, etc.), I feel that she should have been encouraged to not give up. An old song that has always stuck with me has lyrics that say, "there is so much pain in the world; (comparatively) my pain is so little. When I saw people's pain, I forgot my own." Of course, these are just my thoughts. I fully respect her (& everybody else's) rights to decide what's best for them. May she be at peace with her decision and enjoy her remaining days in a better frame of mind.

nertirs 3y ago
I feel the same way. I respect the woman's decision, but for me personally it is difficult to empathize with it.
raydev 3y ago
> I feel that she should have been encouraged to not give up. For how long would you say? Have they not discussed this for an extended amount of time with multiple people?
rokkitmensch 3y ago
My partner has a loving partner, loving children, a safe home environment. Yet her abusive upbringing has left her with systemic self-regard challenges, self-regulation challenges, and very little executive functioning skills. She dips into a suicidal mode a few times a year. Some folks have mountains of internal pain and anguish that they necessarily mask from everyone around them every day. For them, the thought of the relief of death is very tempting.
j_crick 3y ago
See, much like others you put an accent on physicalities (how she’s not in some dirty hole in a very poor and dangerous country), and then switch to relativities. But WHY do you consider it fair to compare her condition to others’? You don’t know what’s going on in her mind, you have absolutely no idea how agonizing a mental state can be. Yet you judge her as she’s perceiving things and feeling feelings just like you or anybody else. But that is not the case. The sad thing about suffering is that if you don’t encounter it before a certain individual threshold amount, it’s very easy to dismiss. For some people, encouraging them to stay here is just another pain point that you can’t even begin to fathom that you’re advocating to add to their struggle with existence. How about pausing and thinking for a second, what a real, tangible and not “socially feel-good” compassion would mean in such cases?

nertirs 3y ago

I feel the same way. I respect the woman's decision, but for me personally it is difficult to empathize with it.

raydev 3y ago

> I feel that she should have been encouraged to not give up. For how long would you say? Have they not discussed this for an extended amount of time with multiple people?

rokkitmensch 3y ago

My partner has a loving partner, loving children, a safe home environment. Yet her abusive upbringing has left her with systemic self-regard challenges, self-regulation challenges, and very little executive functioning skills. She dips into a suicidal mode a few times a year. Some folks have mountains of internal pain and anguish that they necessarily mask from everyone around them every day. For them, the thought of the relief of death is very tempting.

j_crick 3y ago

See, much like others you put an accent on physicalities (how she’s not in some dirty hole in a very poor and dangerous country), and then switch to relativities. But WHY do you consider it fair to compare her condition to others’? You don’t know what’s going on in her mind, you have absolutely no idea how agonizing a mental state can be. Yet you judge her as she’s perceiving things and feeling feelings just like you or anybody else. But that is not the case. The sad thing about suffering is that if you don’t encounter it before a certain individual threshold amount, it’s very easy to dismiss. For some people, encouraging them to stay here is just another pain point that you can’t even begin to fathom that you’re advocating to add to their struggle with existence. How about pausing and thinking for a second, what a real, tangible and not “socially feel-good” compassion would mean in such cases?