My folks are both Esther2s, and consequently I was until about 30. Then I started getting into various self-help things, aligning myself with others of like mi

My folks are both Esther2s, and consequently I was until about 30. Then I started getting into various self-help things, aligning myself with others of like mind, etc... basically just doing whatever it took to cultivate PMA (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_mental_attitude http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_mental_attitude) and ridding my emotional lexicon of victim mentality. I can't remember what the name for it (or even if there is a name for it), but one of the best tricks I've learned is to self identify any negative thoughts as they stream in... when they come, just acknowledge they exist, don't beat yourself up over it; but take a step back, imagine yourself in the 3rd person seeing you get wound up over it, laugh it off and relax if you can. If you can't that's okay, it's just like attaining any positive habit or trying to quit any negative one. Persistence and time will make things come around, as long as you want it and continue deliberately practicing to achieve it. It was a process that took a couple years to sink in but surely will be ongoing until the day I die - the funny thing is, for years now, only my folks have been able to get a physical rise out of me (and perhaps rush hour traffic, haha). It's like some weird Pavlov's response. And of course there are times when a situation is just a little too tough, scary, or stressful, and I catch myself falling back on old patterns. In other words, when you find your comfort zones stretched, you also have to keep in mind that your mind will try to deceive you to keep you out of harm's way.