Dutch service is considered bad by some foreigners (including me at times) primarily because of incompetence and laziness, not a lack of deference. In fact, I

Dutch service is considered bad by some foreigners (including me at times) primarily because of incompetence and laziness, not a lack of deference. In fact, I beleive that some of the best service in the world exists in the Netherlands, because it really comes from the heart of your server. Unfortunately, very hard to find amongst the staff who are too busy chatting each other up (or customers for that matter: I remember waiting 45 minutes for a menu so that I could order, I began waving at a member of the staff, and got a shy smile and a telephone number, sheesh!)